October 30, 2007
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What do you look like?
Sometimes I’ll read a blog, and it’s clear that the person thinks that they are really attractive. They just have an unbelievable amount of confidence… it just jumps off the page. I’m not referring to people who joke about their looks – I mean more, people who are constantly dropping hints that they’re always getting hit on.
I always wonder, “Are they as attractive as they think they are?”
I think, maybe not so much. I find that truly beautiful women don’t really mention their looks very much. If you tell an average looking woman she is beautiful, she will light up like a Christmas tree. But if you tell a beautiful woman she is beautiful, then you won’t get much of a reaction. They hear it all the time… so it’s nothing new.
This is a generalization, so it’s not always true. But it’s true more often than not, in my experience.
Anyway that’s just my take. Do you ever come across people like this on Xanga?
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I find very beautiful women are also less likely to criticize the appearance of other women
Yeah, I have on occasion.
what can ya say . . . some chicks are keyboard beauties.
yes, it bugs me. i find that women who brag about getting hit on probably don’t get hit on very often.
I can’t really say that I’ve run across women on Xanga who talk about being hit on, but then, most of my contacts on Xanga are mature people. Such bragging seems positively childish. What’s more, most of us eventually learn that physical attractiveness is highly overrated by the young. For most adults that I know, happiness seems to be completely unrelated to outward beauty.
It’s not just women. I find the worst example on Xanga to be a man who constantly drops hints about what a stud he was in high school, how many girlfriends he had, how picky he was about their appearance, and he frequently blogs about ugliness in other people. His arrogance screams at you from the page.
Um. ND?
and me. but when i say i’m attractive, i really mean it. it’s not b/s. you can tell, john. i am always serious.
There was this one guy who I used to read…who posted his “model-esque” photos on a regular basis. It was sort of humorous. I like confidence in people; arrogance is another story.
I only joke about how hot I think my husband is.
hahaha.
Personally, I think it’s what’s on the inside that counts. And I’m beautiful on the inside, which is all that really matters to me.
>>If you tell an average looking woman she is beautiful, she will light up like a Christmas tree.
YES! I don’t find women who are hott and know they are hott attractive. Its the simple ones that are not assuming that become more attractive.
MrT
Lots lol, not just ladies, but also blokes…
I never did think I was drop dead gorgeous but back in my partying days i did get hit on a lot. It used to annoy me actually because I was on the dance floor (usually alone) and dudes would come try to talk to me. when they get shot down they get all pissy. UGH. no wonder i left the bar scene…..
Well, I must be average then. Cool. I don’t come across that much on Xanga or in real life. Shoot, when something comes even close to vague interest it’s worth a mention. How unpleasant it would be to tell a person he or she was beautiful and have them disregard it.
“beautiful” chicks are always lit like a christmas tree. i think they don’t react until you mention how beautiful the bark of their tree trunk is.
There’s beautiful, and then there’s sexy, and the two often don’t overlap. But boy is it nice when they do.
I have noticed that. I just think its funny when you tell a girl she is beautiful and she argues saying she isn’t. But then again I tend to do the same thing when people give me a compliment.
there are snobs everywhere, what can you do?
did NDM’s self-love inspired this post? =)
i wish i could be that beautiful ladies..
no no, NDM really is that good looking…
Yep.
It is quite embarassing when you find that they aren’t what they seem to be.
Personally I don’t care.
If I like the person for what they portray, then it is okay with me.
I am not looking at folks for a “hook up” just for friends.
I guess if you were wanting to hook up with someone this could be a big problem!
lol…
i think its more attractive when i can see that person can write quality stuff that doesn’t lose my interest in the second paragraph than how many times they’ve been hit on or how great looking they are. the contents could indeed be about how great looking they are but if the writing doesn’t keep my interest up, then i guess it’s like a double negative. lol. i dunno. but those who overly boast about their physical qualities and condemn others for not having it… often a serious turn off.
not just in xanga – but in real life. some people are truly delusional. i have a friend who is constantly bragging about how construction workers stare her up and down – come on ! it’s nyc!!! they’ll stare anyone up and down!!!
i’m too sexy for my shirt. so sexy it hurts.
Sometimes…
-Sarah
Haha not so much xanga- bc I’ll just click away from the site.
But in life I encounter that a lot. This late 30s lady- a family
friend was visiting and during breakfast she said to me:
“You’re not that pretty- quite plain. But you do have nice skin.”
I was taken back- should I thank her or sucker punch her?
I thought it was interesting how she judges others looks
(tactlessly) when she looks like a troll.
Haha…I try to stay away from pretty girls’ sites. A lot of them don’t give a crap for anything around them…just themselves. It’s kinda sad, but if they want to live like that, that’s their choice.
i thought the same thing – if NDM’s post inspired this entry…
i read xanga entries with sarcasm glasses so even if they exude beauty, confidence, ugly, fat, etc…all the same to me.
less often now that everyone’s xanga pic is actually of themselves. the camera doesn’t lie. but i guess photoshop does sometimes.
that’s what blows my mind, the word ‘photoshop’… that program has morphed into a verb that means to ‘alter a picture’… that’s brutal conquering of society by a company. Genghis Kahn is proud.
I do find it odd when they mention it and I think to myself….do they realize what they’re saying? but oh well….they say the most beautiful women don’t even know they’re beautiful. i think it’s true! like my mom. =)
btw, how do i change back my private site to the new private setup? i can’t go back and forth…i’m stuck on the old one!
Sure have.
The same thing happens on Facebook, and then that’s even funnier, because even if they only post the really good pictures of themselves, you KNOW that they aren’t THAT good-looking, because you see them every day in class.
I find that the honest-to-goodness beautiful women don’t brag that much.
It’s the inside that makes them hot. Outer looks are good for initial attraction, but it’s the insides that will keep them looking hot.
People talking about their looks makes me think they’re insecure. That’s not all that appealing. I come across people like this on xanga.
i can’t stand narcissistic people. i find that i really can’t stand them if they truly are as good-looking as they say they are.
Not yet, maybe later I might if I roam around other blogs.
john, you’re beautiful
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*waits for christmas tree reaction*
*ducks*
All the time dude. All the time.
i don’t peruse xanga much but Myspace is swarming with such people
that annoys the crap out of me, when people brag about how good looking they are. i mean not everyone is as good looking as NDM, they should really stop fooling themselves.
If you tell me I’m beautiful you won’t get much of a reaction, not because I am beautiful (I’m cute but I’m not like gobsmacking vogue supastar HoTT), but because I want to know what you want. I’m about more than my looks and I just get a bit suspicious when people focus on my looks rather than on who or what I am. You’ve got an interesting theory and I have social areas where it would work almost without fail, but . . its shallow.
Hahaha…most of Xanga is like that. Overconfident teenagers with sky-high self-esteem.
Random hello! (saw you in my footprints, and was intrigued!)
Interesting post. I’m not super confident about my appearance personally… and if someone called me beautiful it WOULD, as you said, light me up like a Christmas tree, hehe.
And I haven’t really come across people like that on Xanga, actually…. though I hope I don’t.
@ Jennie_Nguyen’s comment: OMG!!! That’s terrible.
(ok, last comment, I swear.. I keep forgetting to mention stuff)
who is NDM???
I look like Shrek, big and ugly
honestly, most of the people I talk to fail to see their own beauty, and see it in others instead.
But I have a strange visual phenomenon: when I meet someone, my perception of their beauty coincides with their personality. If I find the person to be mean and self-centered, they become uglier in my eyes, whereas if I find a person to be good at heart, they become more beautiful. I guess I look more for inner beauty?
haha for some reason, when I first read your entry, I thought you were referring to looking at people’s pics and whether they’re really as attractive… something like
http://www.officialdatingresource.com/dating/beware-the-dreaded-myspace-angles-pics/
So anyway, back to your entry… yeah, I see plenty of people, guys and girls, who give out such a vibe. But I guess the readers love it… people love it when people are confident… even when they are cocky, but funny, it also interests the readers. I guess attractiveness is based on the whole package (personality, looks), not just looks alone. I’ve seen some “mediocre” looking people who people are attracted to more just cuz they’re really funny.
i think its funny when girls will post like all these glamoury shots of themselves all over the place… esp the self-taken ones via webcam where they’re taking themselves WAY too seriously. i mean we all love looking at pictures, but uh, really now, there’s a limit too how much fuzzy background i can take.
haha. i actually wonder about what some ppl look like, when they’re blogging extnesively about their dating life and talk with a certain entitlement… but who knows. maybe they really are that good looking. there’s tons of people out there who are 8+’s and know it and enjoy it and SAY it.
I once met someone from xanga who said she was getting hit on by guys from the gym and that no one was worthy of her. My goodness…when I met her, I wanted to run the other way. Some people are out of touch with reality….
oh, you’ve witnessed my ravishing good looks in person, John!
I find that so often, people that have to brag about how good looking they are are looking for attention, or are flat out lying. I see it all the time. People that claim they are models, people that brag about parties they went to, etc. More often than not, its not that they are good looking (some probably are), they just want attention.
Granted we all do, but some just go about it all wrong.
This is touchy. I don’t want to be offensive to anyone. I have heard overweight woman talk about getting hit on, and I wonder whether they have misinterpreted, to put it kindly, not that it;s impossible.
I also happen to think that when people think they are attractive, sometimes that makes them so, and if “less attractive” people could muster the confidence, sometimes I think they would pull it off and the converse is true, when you think you are ugly, you sometimes convince other people of the same.
a ton on xanga, a ton in real life.
haha, funny dude. added!
hahaha… i always blog about how hot i am….
…in a ironic, sarcastic kind of way.
i would tend to think people are relatively delusional when it comes to their own appearance and the way it comes off to others. ridiculously good looking people do not have a xanga. they’re usually out and not at home at 11pm posting.
There’s nothing wrong with a girl/guy that is confident in their looks… even if they really are busted up in real life.
I think the reason beautiful women don’t react is because they are being modest. At least that’s how I react because I don’t want people to think I am stuck up.
I have never come across that from someone’s blog but I have come across people who drop hints at how “wealthy” they are. My reaction to that is just it’s all relative.
What I can’t stand from blogs is when some gals think their babies/kids are the cutest things in the world.
Ahahaha I figured out who you were talking about! (It’s probably not just one person but man was this one obvious).
I look like a fatass….thanks for reminding me……
Oh yeah…I just left a message on one…just now…”I kid, I kid!” but yeah…I do come across people like that on xanga.
Lol, yeah, I met a guy on Xanga, someone who writes a very self-confident I-am-the-man blog. In real life he was very fat and had a tick that made him sniff and twiddle his nose a lot. I don’t read him any more…..
hey…. are you trying to say that i’m not pretty?! HMPH!
but to be honest, i only blog about being hit on if the guy hitting on me is saying something REALLY retarded. it’s because it’s a funny story. not because i’m subtly trying to say, “ohmigawd, i’m SO hot.”
besides… beauty is in the eye blah blah blah. so if someone dillusionally believes they’re *THAT* hot, and it makes them feel better to tell the world that through their blog, i’m charitable enough to humour them.
I would disagree that beautiful women don’t light up when you complement them…I think they hear it less often, because people assume they know it. I think that people that are not so attractive might be more apt to fish for complements, along with pretty girls who want lots of affirmation, and as a result might get them more often. A girl that knows she’s pretty, but doesn’t flaunt it, and isn’t told very often is going to enjoy hearing it just as much I think.
the rule i learned is… tell pretty girls they’re smart and tell nerdy girls that they are hot. everyone always wishes they were more of the other. of course, i only say it if i mean it. =)
true that. it happens in real life as well. but some people are just plain gracious. :]
No, some people are NOT as attractive as they think they are (and some are MORE attractive than what they exude). I know women who aren’t all that but walk around as if they’re God’s gift to men and beautiful women who are modest because they don’t need reassurance. Either way though, pretty or ugly, ALL women have self-esteem issues. True confidence comes from accepting WHO you are and not what you THINK you are or need to be =)
Yeah. You look like a hottie in your profile pic and I bet you’re not even blushing right now.
My profile pic doesn’t do me justice though. I might have to switch back to my picture of a monkey on a typewriter.
Very wisely noted.
My boyfriend tells me I’m very good looking and that’s all that matters to me. Even if you are drop-dead beautiful, it’s very immature and quite shallow to brag about your looks. Who care’s if your gorgeous if your cocky…personality matters so much more!
On Xanga specifically, I prefer when average-looking people post sweet or thoughtful comments on my site than a hot guy who’s cocky about himself.
Nice post, by the way!!
i find that people look better if they are kind
it just shines through, its lovely!
i know, looking at people at school, that the girls getting hit on are all the same
same hair
same makeup
same speech
same mind.
its terribly boring, but then the guys are involved arnt much either.
Lol, you know what they say about women with “great personalities”
I am probably much better looking here than I am in real life.
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