So nice, this is my first comment using my IPhone xanga app. It is very easy to use. I consider This app is my best New Year present. Kudos!
BEST APP EVER!
I have one question though – I have a private post that isn’t finished yet, and there’s a youtube video on the post. when i try to view the post using the app, it leaves xanga and goes straight to the youtube video. i have to go back to xanga, but when I do, it again goes straight to youtube. I have to go back a couple of times before I can see the post. but then when i scroll down the post to where the actual youtube video is, i can’t view the video. the entry is private, so maybe that is messing everything up?
I’m also using 3G iphone, not 4 or 4s…
I like that, I need to go check this app out — I’ve kinda been out of the loop, is the app accessible to android mobile phones?
Xanga is not allowing me to rec many posts for some reason.
what about blackberry users????
@ctaretz - Recs bug should be fixed within next half hour or so!
@john - Thank you sir, but, Now how about the app? Is it in the droid market as an app yet?
@ctaretz - We’re aiming to get it on Android by end of week!
The app makes me so happy! Now I can feed my Xanga addiction with my iPod Touch!
I’m going to need a XAA (Xanga Addicts Anon) meeting soon. lmao
DEAR JOHN, I HAVE SENT YOU A MESSAGE, A COMMENT, AND I HAVE SENT THE XANGATEAM HALF A DOZEN MESSAGES ABOUT AN INDIVIDUAL WHO HAS BEEN STALKING AND HARASSING ME. HE IS NOW THREATENING ME, AND I HAVE CONTINUED TO BE IGNORED BY YOU. THIS PERSON’S XANGA USERNAME iS T3hZ10n. HE MAKES DOZENS AND DOZENS OF NEW SCREEN NAMES AND TRIES TO RE-FRIEND ME USING THEM. SOME OF THEM ARE THREATENING, AND I DO NOT FEEL SAFE. EXAMPLES OF THE SCREEN NAMES HE CREATED YESTERDAY IN AN ATTEMPT TO FRIEND ME, AND I AM CONTINUALLY BLOCKING THEM:
if this makes you uncomfortable, it explains so much… you need to know this.
There have been things I’ve said that you’ve taken the wrong way… many, many things.
As time went on this has gotten worse and worse until finally I gave you all that “advice” (which was mostly bullshit, I know), but there was a point to it.
I don’t know a better way to put this other than:
You
seem
like you do it on purpose at the time, but when it comes down to it, your manipulation, your betrayal, and your emotional exploitation are all things you are unaware of regarding how your actions effected me.
This is the hard part… the part I need you to let your guard down, and whatever negative feelings you have about me, I need you to try forget them for one minute… just read this like I am an unbiased, neutral party, or if you can, even a close friend… I’m going to list a few truths about you that you
need
to not take as insults or degrading or hurtful in any way (because they’re not).
You take things as insults when they are not insulting.
This is so hard to get across to you without you taking it as me saying “Your point of view is wrong.”
(or taking it as an insult in and of itself)
That is not at all what I am saying and it is not the same thing.
It is a dangerous mode of operation if you do. There is no excuse for taking “This is not an insult.” as an insult.
The very basis of human communication… you need to accept what is said as it is said.
You have to understand, you are so intelligent, you are the smartest girl I know, maybe the smartest person I know… you are so quick and so intelligent that you are able to turn any statement you want in just about any context, and bend its meaning to fit many different reasonings, and you are very good at convincing not only strangers, but even
MYSELF
that what you believe my words meant (or were intended to result in) might have
actually
been what was meant.
You have to understand this can and will lead to mental, emotional, and interpersonal instability.
I do this too, but I have learned to control it.
I don’t know if you are aware of the fact that you are doing it…
But I am going to “work with you”.
I am not going to give up.
I am not going to let you believe I am a threat.
I’m going to bring you back to reality… and whatever you think of me, you can say “you’re grandiose, you’re delusional, you’re (whatever).”
But the fact of the matter is you are playing mind games with yourself that you are losing to.
You hate me because you want to hate me, not because of anything I have done.
When I said “you will see me however you choose to see me” it was the truth… and it
was not an insult
.
It takes a deep and intelligent mind to do what you are doing. Let me show you your mistakes so you can do it with total control.
You asked me if I had the courage to show vulnerability and apologize in front of everyone that reads your Xanga…
Do you have the courage to show vulnerability and let me help you to see how to become a happier and better person in general, and no one has to know but me?
Can you overcome the emotions that have held you back?
Can you control them long enough to let me show you how to keep them under control?
To prove to you that this isn’t for “my personal benefit”, if you let me do this for you… I will let you devise some way of making sure I get less than nothing out of it. I want to do it for you, because you are such a beautiful person inside and out, and I love you so much.
I am not an “emotional abuser”… you are holding me responsible for making you feel bad while refusing to allow me to make you feel good because you cannot admit to being influenced/controlled by me… you have to understand that if you admit to it, I can show you how not to be effected by people the way you are, because it’s complete and utter fucking bullshit if you try telling me, yourself, or anyone else you are in control of your emotions.
You’ve proven so many times they get the best of you.
That the littlest things I do effect you in the biggest ways.
Admit that I have more control over your emotions than you do, and I can hand you the controller.
Otherwise you are just running away from me when all I am doing is trying to give you what is rightfully yours. Something I know you want more than anything. You want to be in control. You want a sense of comfort, predictability, security. I can give you what you need to create those things for yourself without having to depend on me or anyone else for them.
You are ignoring me, so you feel as though you have “escaped me”, but we both know you are pulling around a 100lb ball on a chain.
I am only chasing you to set you free. If you would stop running, I could show you how to take off what it holding you back, then you can go as you please…
Until then, knowing you’re out there somewhere and you’ll never be as happy as you could’ve been and that there is probably someone taking advantage of you is not something I will allow to happen.
All I need is for you to (when you build up the courage/strength) IM me and talk about anything you want.
Tell me your deepest concerns, and I work with you to overcome whatever challenges exist in resolving them.
Tell me about your day.
Whatever you want.
This can only get worse if you ignore it. Let me help and by doing so, you can help me as well.
You can still block me on Xanga if you’re worried I might say something stupid on your blog, and no one has to know you’re talking to me.
I won’t pressure you into anything. But regardless of what you choose, I need a response as soon as you can.
Thank you for being as understanding and patient as you have been, and I promise it’ll be worth it.
This is either really fucking childish, or really fucking evil.
Either way, I’m not letting you get away with all the shit you’ve done.
You’ve called me so many fucking names.
You’ve told people so many fucking lies about me.
You made me out to be a fucking psycho.
You’ve told me to fucking kill myself.
When the fuck did I do anything close to what you’ve done to me?
I was never mean to you… but I can be really fucking mean if this is how you’re going to leave the situation.
You tell me to get the fuck off your Xanga for defending myself to all the fucks who were giving you bullshit advice based on the IM log you posted that was edited, exaggerated, and out of context?
Act like an adult and talk to me so we can work this out, or you just made your first real enemy, and you really don’t want me as an enemy.
PLEASE HELP ME, JOHN. I FEEL HELPLESS AND VIOLATED AND ANGRY. THIS PERSON SHOULD NOT BE ALLOWED TO CONTINUE HIS BEHAVIOR.
I love Manhattan! I wish I was there now.
I miss New York!!!
LOL I went through the same route just last week.
I miss New York so much, we went here in 2008 on a coach tour of USA and Canada (we made sure whilst booking the tour, it was possibly to have extra days on the back of the tour)
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So nice, this is my first comment using my IPhone xanga app. It is very easy to use. I consider This app is my best New Year present. Kudos!
BEST APP EVER!
I have one question though – I have a private post that isn’t finished yet, and there’s a youtube video on the post. when i try to view the post using the app, it leaves xanga and goes straight to the youtube video. i have to go back to xanga, but when I do, it again goes straight to youtube. I have to go back a couple of times before I can see the post. but then when i scroll down the post to where the actual youtube video is, i can’t view the video. the entry is private, so maybe that is messing everything up?
I’m also using 3G iphone, not 4 or 4s…
I like that, I need to go check this app out — I’ve kinda been out of the loop, is the app accessible to android mobile phones?
Xanga is not allowing me to rec many posts for some reason.
what about blackberry users????
@ctaretz - Recs bug should be fixed within next half hour or so!
@john - Thank you sir, but, Now how about the app? Is it in the droid market as an app yet?
@ctaretz - We’re aiming to get it on Android by end of week!
http://thexangateam.xanga.com/758395622/xangas-iphone-app-now-live-in-itunes-app-store/
@john - Thank you.
@Kristenmomof3 - What’s the make and model on your Blackberry?
@john - blackberry curve 3G 330
The app makes me so happy! Now I can feed my Xanga addiction with my iPod Touch!
I’m going to need a XAA (Xanga Addicts Anon) meeting soon. lmao
DEAR JOHN,
I HAVE SENT YOU A MESSAGE, A COMMENT, AND I HAVE SENT THE XANGATEAM HALF A DOZEN MESSAGES ABOUT AN INDIVIDUAL WHO HAS BEEN STALKING AND HARASSING ME. HE IS NOW THREATENING ME, AND I HAVE CONTINUED TO BE IGNORED BY YOU. THIS PERSON’S XANGA USERNAME iS T3hZ10n. HE MAKES DOZENS AND DOZENS OF NEW SCREEN NAMES AND TRIES TO RE-FRIEND ME USING THEM. SOME OF THEM ARE THREATENING, AND I DO NOT FEEL SAFE.
EXAMPLES OF THE SCREEN NAMES HE CREATED YESTERDAY IN AN ATTEMPT TO FRIEND ME, AND I AM CONTINUALLY BLOCKING THEM:
Wednesday,
18 January 2012
READ
DO NOT stop reading this
if this makes you uncomfortable, it
explains so much… you need to know this.
There have
been things I’ve said that you’ve taken the wrong way… many, many things.
As time went on this has gotten worse and worse until finally I gave you all
that “advice” (which was mostly bullshit, I know), but there was a
point to it.
I don’t
know a better way to put this other than:
You
seem
like
you do it on purpose at the time, but when it comes down to it, your
manipulation, your betrayal, and your emotional exploitation are all things you
are unaware of regarding how your actions effected me.
This is
the hard part… the part I need you to let your guard down, and whatever
negative feelings you have about me, I need you to try forget them for one
minute… just read this like I am an unbiased, neutral party, or if you can,
even a close friend… I’m going to list a few truths about you that you
need
to not take as insults or degrading or hurtful in any way (because they’re
not).
You
take things as insults when they are not insulting.
This is so
hard to get across to you without you taking it as me saying “Your point
of view is wrong.”
(or taking
it as an insult in and of itself)
That is
not at all what I am saying and it is not the same thing.
It is a
dangerous mode of operation if you do. There is no excuse for taking “This
is not an insult.” as an insult.
The very
basis of human communication… you need to accept what is said as it is said.
You have
to understand, you are so intelligent, you are the smartest girl I know, maybe
the smartest person I know… you are so quick and so intelligent that you are
able to turn any statement you want in just about any context, and bend its
meaning to fit many different reasonings, and you are very good at
convincing not only strangers, but even
MYSELF
that what you
believe my words meant (or were intended to result in) might have
actually
been what was meant.
You have
to understand this can and will lead to mental, emotional, and interpersonal
instability.
I do this
too, but I have learned to control it.
I don’t know if you are aware of the fact that you are doing it…
But I am
going to “work with you”.
I am not
going to give up.
I am not
going to let you believe I am a threat.
I’m going
to bring you back to reality… and whatever you think of me, you can say
“you’re grandiose, you’re delusional, you’re (whatever).”
But the
fact of the matter is you are playing mind games with yourself that you are
losing to.
You hate
me because you want to hate me, not because of anything I have done.
When I
said “you will see me however you choose to see me” it was the truth…
and it
was not an insult
.
It takes a
deep and intelligent mind to do what you are doing. Let me show you your
mistakes so you can do it with total control.
You asked
me if I had the courage to show vulnerability and apologize in front of
everyone that reads your Xanga…
Do you
have the courage to show vulnerability and let me help you to see how to become
a happier and better person in general, and no one has to know but me?
Can you
overcome the emotions that have held you back?
Can you
control them long enough to let me show you how to keep them under control?
To prove
to you that this isn’t for “my personal benefit”, if you let me do
this for you… I will let you devise some way of making sure I get less than
nothing out of it. I want to do it for you, because you are such a beautiful
person inside and out, and I love you so much.
I am not
an “emotional abuser”… you are holding me responsible for making
you feel bad while refusing to allow me to make you feel good because you
cannot admit to being influenced/controlled by me… you have to understand
that if you admit to it, I can show you how not to be effected by people the
way you are, because it’s complete and utter fucking bullshit if you try
telling me, yourself, or anyone else you are in control of your emotions.
You’ve
proven so many times they get the best of you.
That the
littlest things I do effect you in the biggest ways.
Admit that
I have more control over your emotions than you do, and I can hand you the
controller.
Otherwise
you are just running away from me when all I am doing is trying to give you
what is rightfully yours. Something I know you want more than anything. You
want to be in control. You want a sense of comfort, predictability, security. I
can give you what you need to create those things for yourself without having
to depend on me or anyone else for them.
You are
ignoring me, so you feel as though you have “escaped me”, but we both
know you are pulling around a 100lb ball on a chain.
I am only
chasing you to set you free. If you would stop running, I could show you how to
take off what it holding you back, then you can go as you please…
Until
then, knowing you’re out there somewhere and you’ll never be as happy as you
could’ve been and that there is probably someone taking advantage of you is not
something I will allow to happen.
All I need
is for you to (when you build up the courage/strength) IM me and talk about
anything you want.
Tell me
your deepest concerns, and I work with you to overcome whatever challenges
exist in resolving them.
Tell me
about your day.
Whatever
you want.
This can
only get worse if you ignore it. Let me help and by doing so, you can help me
as well.
You can
still block me on Xanga if you’re worried I might say something stupid on your
blog, and no one has to know you’re talking to me.
I won’t
pressure you into anything. But regardless of what you choose, I need a
response as soon as you can.
Thank you
for being as understanding and patient as you have been, and I promise it’ll be
worth it.
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On T3hz10n:
Wednesday,
18 January 2012You
Need To Stop Ignoring Me
You really
don’t want me to hate you.
I’ve been
very fucking nice to you.
This is
either really fucking childish, or really fucking evil.
Either
way, I’m not letting you get away with all the shit you’ve done.
You’ve
called me so many fucking names.
You’ve
told people so many fucking lies about me.
You made
me out to be a fucking psycho.
You’ve
told me to fucking kill myself.
When the
fuck did I do anything close to what you’ve done to me?
I was
never mean to you… but I can be really fucking mean if this is how you’re
going to leave the situation.
You tell
me to get the fuck off your Xanga for defending myself to all the fucks who
were giving you bullshit advice based on the IM log you posted that was edited,
exaggerated, and out of context?
Act like
an adult and talk to me so we can work this out, or you just made your first
real enemy, and you really don’t want me as an enemy.
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PLEASE HELP ME, JOHN. I FEEL HELPLESS AND VIOLATED AND ANGRY. THIS PERSON SHOULD NOT BE ALLOWED TO CONTINUE HIS BEHAVIOR.
I love Manhattan! I wish I was there now.
I miss New York!!!
LOL I went through the same route just last week.
I miss New York so much, we went here in 2008 on a coach tour of USA and Canada (we made sure whilst booking the tour, it was possibly to have extra days on the back of the tour)